Lately, the rumors about Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck have been nonstop, but the most recent one has everyone chattering! On August 15, JLo was seen at Ben’s rental in Brentwood. This led everyone to wonder about the true nature of their relationship since the visit intersected with the Oscar winner’s birthday and the social media silence surrounding it. Instead of a birthday shoutout to her “miyagito” (as she calls him), JLo posted some the next day with pictures of her past Dior moment to accompany the caption, “Remember when…” and then a series of emojis.

Noting the uncommon lack of public birthday festivities, fans have taken to speculating about the state of Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck’s relationship. JLo celebrated her 55th birthday recently in the Hamptons, but Affleck was nowhere to be seen. The couple has not been spotted together recently, has seemed to be partaking in the common marital practice of wearing matching wedding bands less frequently, and has had rumors swirling that they’re on the rocks after Affleck moved out of the house they shared. And rumor has it that he was the one who decided to put their former love nest on the market for $68 million.

Even though we sidestepped the potential for a public relations disaster if we asked while being together in May, it’s still a surprise to receive word of Affleck’s birthday visit to Lopez just this past week. …The way I see it, Affleck’s secret mission could mean three things: They’re back together as a couple, they’re exemplary co-parents, or they’ve amicably uncoupled.